Keep Your Mind Off of Divorce

Keep Your Mind Off of Divorce


So, you are going through a divorce? Congratulations! Or wait a minute, a condolence may be what you are after. You’re not going to get it, so now is the time to move on with your life and dust the sand off of the seat of your pants and get moving because you have a lot of ground to cover to start moving past your divorce.

First, you need a new you. That’s right a new you! What a great time for a make-over and spa treatment. You need a manicure, a pedicure, and a massage and you need it quick. Call a hair salon and get ready for a new divorce hair-do. Tell the stylist to make it cute, sexy and stylish because you are about to embark on your new life and self-pity isn’t in the program!

Secondly, after you have your new make-over, it’s time to get busy and start planning a fitness program. Without a hungry spouse to feed, you have no more excuses for late, fattening dinners. And you now have time to join a gym which should be your first stop after you leave the beauty salon.

Next on the list is to make sure all mementos of your spouse go in an ex-spouse file or drawer or box. No reason to keep these things hanging around because that is in the past. Understandably, if you have children this may not be possible, but the kids can keep the pictures in their own rooms. You are ready to move on and no reason to have a shrine of your ex all over the house.

After the basic housekeeping is over, double check with a financial advisor and be sure that you are capable of standing on your own two feet, if not you need to learn how to stand on your own feet and some financial planning is certainly in order. You need to plan for any unexpected measures too. Also, you are entitled to your ex’s social security should something happen to him or her so you need to make sure you understand how that works because if you are the victim of adultery, you may not ever want to re-marry for the simple fact that you stand too much to lose financially. See what the requirements are for getting your hands on the dough when the old buzzard kicks the bucket.

Yes indeed, you are going to go straight through this divorce without any emotional problems, without self-pity, without any difficulty whatsoever. You are a survivor and you’ll divorce like the true survivor that you are and with no regrets.

Divorce doesn’t have to be a gloomy time. Do what it takes to move past it and get on with your life pronto! You want to start living and stop feeling sorry for yourself and the best way to do that is to think positively. And if you crash one day, just bounce back into Pro-Divorce mode the next.