Divorce

Sunday, August 06, 2006

Marrying with Divorce on Your Mind

Marrying with Divorce on Your Mind


Have you ever thought about the concept of marrying with divorce on the mind? It happens all the time in a little thing called a pre-nuptial agreement. While many would disagree citing that the reason for a pre-nuptial is larger than what meets the eye, it is still a fact.

While a pre-nuptial is certainly advisable if you are extremely rich and you have earned large sums of money without the help of your fiancée, you should realize that a pre-nuptial or the simple mention of a pre-nuptial will be the beginning of the end of the relationship. So, what should you do to avoid a pre-determined fate of divorce?

The best way to implement a workable pre-nuptial is to state that all assets prior to the marriage are solely your assets. Naturally, you need to have an itemized list of these things including property, cash, stocks and bonds, automobiles and other assets. Your new love interest will surely understand all of that, right? Probably not but here is how you can handle it. Explain to your new love interest that while you have been very successful in the past, that you are certain that the best is yet to come and while you are anxious to share your lifestyle with him or her, you need to know that your marriage is based more than on money alone. Therefore, anything you acquire together will be yours together as a couple. However, you must maintain your independent assets prior to the marriage as a security blanket for the future.

This is a very good time to encourage your future spouse to do the same. In fact, to help your future husband or wife appear to be a very worthwhile partner, pre-nuptial agreements should state that both parties are entering the marriage with independent finances which will remain their own. This in and of itself should make your fiancée feel much better.

Often a pre-nuptial agreement is most damaging when it makes the other person seem less financially sound or even unworthy of a marriage to the other person. This is when problems begin to simmer and there is absolutely no reason to hurt the one you love with embarrassment that a pre-nuptial sometimes brings to the table.

Divorce issues are faced in pre-nuptials and naturally no one wants to jinx their upcoming marriage with mentions of divorce and looming financial contracts but if you are extremely wealthy, you need to take action to protect what you have. There is nothing worse than trying to get out of a marriage without losing everything you have only after realizing your significant other married you only for your money.

When you plan ahead and plan to protect your finances while still providing a good life for the one you love ,then things will proceed smoothly all the way to the wedding alter and long after the I DO!!!